The women, almost across the board, gave enthusiastic yeses, whereas the men were confused by the entire notion of the question. Meana asked a group of men and women if they’d want to have sex with themselves. Untrue cites a study called 'It’s Not You, It’s Me: Exploring Erotic Self Focus' by Marta Meana and Evan Fertel about 'female self-focus,' or deriving sexual arousal from your own sexiness as much as one does from their partners. For some women, seeing themselves desired by others is a turn-on. If you've ever found yourself wanting to have sex in front of a mirror, it's linked to your sexual needs. Chivers’ study, participants looked at pornography while wearing plethysmographs-or, instruments that monitor blood flow to the participants’ genitalia-to observe what stimuli their bodies responded to. Martin references the work of sexologist Meredith Chivers, Ph.D., who conducted a study to try to understand what leads men and women to have sexual physical responses. Martin, but the most common ones are 'spontaneous desire,' whereby sexual desire is more like an appetite, happening upon us at will and 'responsive desire,' a tendency to feel sexually excited after erotic stimulation rather than in anticipation of it. There are multiple 'desire styles,' says Dr. Untrue explains that desire isn't just a blanket concept. Plenty of data exists that says long-term relationships are hard on desire, and female desire in particular. Women's Bodies Respond to Just About EverythingĪnyone who's ever had a single partner knows that how much you want to have sex with that person ebbs and flows. But with her new book, UNTRUE: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free, Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., is striving to break through the cultural narratives that have structured these public beliefs-and she's got the latest science on her side. Because of the patriarchal history of research (read: men did most of the research, so most research revolves around men), there isn’t a ton of data out there on women and their livelihoods, including their sexuality.

It's just that, well, it hasn't been socially acceptable to acknowledge that fact. Women are people, just like men are people.

Women have the feeling of lust and want to explore their sexual identities. Women seek pleasure just as often as men do, if not more. So anyone who says that women are less likely to cheat, less libidinous, and less sexually adventurous than men is buying into the (more recent) patriarchal idea of female sexuality.

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